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Adopted children as they grow and mature sometimes need help resolving their feelings about not growing up with their birth parents. Adopted children who were adopted when they were older, who were adopted after they experienced abuse or neglect, or who were adopted from another country, may have other behaviors and feelings that sometimes become difficult for families to manage on their own.
Needing outside help after adoption is normal and many adoptive families seek assistance.
As a family with an adopted child, adolescent or teen, you may be eligible for State Adoption Assistance.
Below are some links where you can find information about the adoption assistance benefits that may be available to families who adopt children from foster care.
Each state operates its own program to support children who were adopted from that state.
In general, the rules and benefits of adoption assistance (also known as adoption subsidy) are based on where the child or adolescent is adopted from, rather than where the family lives.
Not all residential treatment centers, therapeutic boarding schools or wilderness programs, specialize in assisting adopted children or young adults. We only recommend programs and schools that are adoption focused when that specific need is at the forefront of your concerns.
Getting therapeutic help with adoption related issues is something that most adoptive parents don’t realize their child may require.
When you have a daughter or son who you believe is struggling because of adoption-related issues, then you may appreciate the necessity of finding the right services for helping them with these complex difficulties. Residential treatment can be a big step for any family, especially for those with an adopted child or young adult who has been diagnosed with mental illnesses or mood disorders.
Residential treatment centers (RTCs) and young adult transitional living programs can offer children and families help in the treatment of mental illnesses when these needs cannot be safely addressed while the child or young adult remains at home. Children and families can also learn strategies to help handle mood disorders to help improve the quality of life. It’s one of the worst decisions you may have to make for your child, young adult and family.
Placing your child in a residential treatment facility is never easy. How do you know when the time is right to do so?
Residential therapeutic treatment? Young adult transitional living?
Is it the right move?
Will sending your child or young adult to treatment help them or harm them? They may have already experienced severe trauma when they were adopted.
Will placing them in a therapeutic program or school actually help to change them?
Let me be honest and say … this is not easy.
On one hand, you are exhausted, frustrated, maybe even feeling insecure, and may even feel ready to quit as a parent.
It’s easy to let those feelings drive your reasoning. Here are a few questions to ask yourselves:
- Addictive. Do they have an addictive personality?
- Behavior that is harmful to others. Are they making choices that put others in jeopardy?
- Behavior that is harmful to themselves. Are they making choices that puts their life in jeopardy?
- Secondary trauma in your other children. Is their behavior causing trauma in other members of your family?
- Apathetic toward their choices or behavior. Do they display an uncaring attitude toward their choices or the repercussions of their choices?
- Refusal of outpatient psychotherapy? Do they refuse to attend or have they quit attending outpatient therapy?
- Unwilling to change with the help of local options? Are they unwilling to change even with the help of local options?
What about choosing a program, school or even a wilderness therapeutic program?
How do you know which one is best suited to your adolescent, young adult and family?
How do you make the right choice?
As an adopted person herself, for 20 years Dr. Frances has been specializing in assisting families with adopted children and young adults. The best thing she does is on site evaluations and continued research before ever recommending a program or school to her clients. She does her homework. She does not look up each program or school online or sit and read Internet reviews. She travels out to see the program and meet their staff face to face. We live in the age of the internet so everything is available online. Not everyone is honest with their online presence. At the end of the day, the choice to have your child placed in residential therapeutic treatment must always be entered into soberly, with lots of consideration, dialogue, and thought.
Most children’s or young adult’s challenges and problems do not become serious enough to require psychiatric hospital treatment.
Sometimes children or young adults with serious emotional problems that cannot be modified through local options or residential treatment may need a first step into being hospitalized.
Hospitalization may be necessary especially for children or young adults who become suicidal or dangerous to themselves or others. In these cases, it is important that parents stay involved; in fact, most child and adolescent units of psychiatric hospitals insist that parents participate in family meetings or therapy. It is essential, of course, to share with the hospital staff that the child or young adults has been adopted. When a child or young adult enters the hospital, they will be evaluated, and treatment goals will be set. Parents need to ask to see their child’s treatment plan and ask clear questions about how it will be accomplished.
Dr. Frances is able to assist with these more serious situations so that you will be supported and not alone when this step is necessary.
Get your free 30 minute consultation with Dr. Frances by calling 303-448-8803
When you are interested in finding the right academic educational setting for your child, teen or young adult or when you are a family in crisis and would like to hire Horizon Family Solutions, please contact us. Due to a high volume of inquiries, we can only take calls from those who are serious about exploring the options of school placement for their child, teen or transitional programs for young adults.